Save your relationship through the Gottman MethodThe Gottman Couple Therapy method refers to strategies that strengthen feelings of friendship and intimacy, find solutions to manage conflicts, and build common life projects.Gottman’s approach became popular because it is pragmatic, based on scientific research and focused on the positive side of the relationship
Dr. John Gottman became famous through a study on newly married couples, after having children, during the 10-20 years of marriage, divorced or grandparents, which was on the base of his algorithm of prediction about divorce, with an accuracy of 95%.
Why is Gottman Couple Therapy the most effective and modern couples therapy?
Dr Gottman, known as “Einstein of Love” and his team, revolutionized the study of couple relationships in longitudinal research that lasted over 40 years to over 4000 couples in all stages of their evolution. They interviewed couples before marriage, newlywed couples from their honeymoon after they had children, those who got divorced, or those who became grandparents, who measured their interaction patterns and determined specific algorithms for interaction between them. These data were used later, over time, to measure the difference between happy couples and those whose relationship ended in divorce.
Who is Gottman Couple Therapy addressing?Gottman Couple Therapy has outstanding results for:
The process of evaluating the relationship through the Gottman MethodCouples who want to participate in Gottman Method Couple Therapy go through an extensive evaluation process to get a clearer picture of the couple’s relationship, their strengths, and the issues that have led to the need for therapy, but also a diagnosis of any individual blockages. The evaluation process consists of 3 sessions lasting 5 hours. On top of this, add the necessary interpretation and answers quantification’s period to the set of questions that each member of the couple completes individually.
Understanding the couple relationship
In the first session, I allow the couple members to share openly the reasons that bring them to therapy. We go through the history of the relationship; we analyze the general way in which the couple manages their conflicts by discussing a problem that is the subject of a disagreement at the moment.
At the end of the session, the couple will receive (via online) a set of questions that evaluate different aspects of individual and couple’s lives.
Understanding each member of the couple
An individual session is an opportunity for the therapist to get to know each member individually. Moreover, to understand the relationship’s premises and also how the past experiences of each one influence the couple’s present life.
Talking openly about yourself or the other, just in the presence of the therapist, is relatively easy. In the Gottman method, however, the basic principle is that the therapist does not keep secrets from the other member of the couple.
Couple's therapeutic plan
In the third session, the therapist openly shares the data received from the first two sessions, and the outcome obtained in the evaluation to which the members of the couple responded. Then look together with partners for general feedback on the results. Within this session is established the concrete goals of the therapy, and the therapist shared a common strategy for improving the couple’s lives.
At the end of the third session, the couple receives a “treatment plan” and the specific therapy sessions can begin.